Building your confidence can be one of the toughest things to do. Just take a look at any social media platform and you’ll see what I mean. Feeds full perfect looking people with perfect looking lives wreak havoc on our sense of worth. Here are three simple tips to build confidence back up.
My husband and I spent a week in Wyoming on vacation. One of the places we visited is the famous Yellowstone National Park. I was struck by the beauty and the smell. Both are things I will never forget. While I was there, I realized that I could learn some lessons from old Yellowstone. Here are three lessons to boost confidence.
The leaves were starting to change the week we were there. Each morning, they were a little more yellow. As we toured Yellowstone, I kept reading about the changes that have happened both recently and in the past to create the Yellowstone of today. There was an earthquake in the 70’s that created several changes. One of the viewing points crumbled and had to be moved. Several geysers dried up or became more active. The biggest change was that Old Faithful wasn’t so faithful anymore. It no longer spouted every hour on the hour. Now, signs post the next approximate eruption. In multiple areas were notices that the only constant in Yellowstone is change.
Life happens! Things change. It’s a good thing. We grow up and look different. Our relationships change. We go through our own seasons of life. When we learn to accept those changes, that’s when we can be more confident. Change is good. Embrace it!
Accept your flaws
The one thing I will never forget is the sulphur smell all over Yellowstone. It was everywhere. It often wafted through our window as we drove by numerous areas around the park. This particular site is called the Dragon’s Breath. It looks like smoke from a dragon billowing out from this cave. I bet it smells like Dragon’s Breath, Although I’ve never met one in person. I imagine it would smell something like this.
This smell, however, didn’t stop thousands of tourists from pouring through the park. I did catch a little girl holding her nose as she “oohed” and “awed”. It’s simply part of the experience. We all have our flaws. the moment we accept those flaws, we become more confident and we remove ammunition for bullies. They can’t make fun of the flaws we all ready accept. Confidence comes from loving ALL of yourself.
In order to see a beautiful water fall, we had to climb down these really steep stairs. These may not look scary to you, but to me, it lead to heart pounding and sweaty palms. I was genuinely afraid. I thought about what my fears were. “Would I fall and die?” would sum up all my fears. What if I lost my footing, the stairs suddenly broke loose, What if …
Fear is our imagination running away. The reality of this situation was that it was safe. The stairs were secure. If I took my time, I would have secure footing. It was unlikely that something would happen. So, how did I get down and back up? I focuses on two things: the present and the reward.
With each step I took toward the bottom, I could feel my confidence growing. Yep, I made it one more step. Then one more and one more. Slowly, I made my way to the vantage point. I knew there would be a beautiful water fall at the bottom and it would be so worth it. When my imagination would wander back to the “what if’s”, I would take control and focus on the next step. The closer I got to the end, the more confident I felt. I didn’t let fear win!
This is the view that greeted me at the bottom of all those steps. I would say it was worth it! You see, when we focus on the now and the next step, we gain confidence with each step. Keep practicing and taking small steps to overcome fear and build confidence in anything.
Yellowstone is a magnificent place to visit and to learn a few lessons yourself. I learned so much! I can build my confidence by embracing change, accepting my flaws and overcoming fear. It may not be easy, but it sure will be worth it. You can do it, too!
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